To leave a mark.
On the world.
That’s something a lot of people think about.
And talk about.
But rarely ever do.
Is it important though?
To be remembered for something.
What’s more important?
For the thing to be remembered,
For you to be remembered.
Sometimes it’s hard to separate the person from the thing.
Because when you think of the thing, you remember the person.
But if we could remember the thing without remembering the person, would the person still do it?
Is your motivation to succeed based on the idea that people will remember you?
The initial title for this post was:
Competence is king.
But the car crashed along the way.
A bulldozer came out of nowhere and smashed into it’s side.
Now here we are.
A disfigured vehicle, a sorry bulldozer and one drunk driver — or two.
Where do we go from here?
You’ve done things.
But how competent have you been at any of those things.
If you’re being honest, not very.
If you’re being delusional, carry on.
Competence is a hard thing.
Because knowing how to do something isn’t competence.
Knowing how to do it well, is.
Every living thing will die.
But not every living thing will evolve.
For an organism to evolve, something has to happen.
It doesn’t have to be something spectacularly large.
Usually, it’s something small.
A small change.
If you’re a fan of wildlife documentaries, you’d appreciate seeing how animals are able to survive the most dangerous conditions on earth.
They don’t complain.
When faced with problems, they don’t roll their eyes, grumble and pontificate about “the issues.”
Their remarkable ability to survive is rooted in the aggregate of small changes that have occurred over millions…
V = I x R
Where V = Voltage,
I = Current
and R = Resistance.
You need voltage to push current against resistance.
The question is:
How much voltage do you need?
Depends on how much resistance you’re up against.
It’s never enough to assume you have what it takes to achieve your goals.
You must take resistance into account.
It’s easy to lure yourself into thinking you’re capable of doing something if you only just committed yourself to it.
Maybe you are.
But how much resistance are you up against?
Do you know?
A project that sucks, sucks.
An investment that sucks, sucks.
A career that sucks, sucks.
A relationship that sucks, sucks.
It’s never too late to pull the plug on something that sucks.
And it isn’t hard to tell that something sucks.
It’s hard to know whether it will continue to suck.
Like, when do you decide that something is no longer worth the effort?
It can be very hard to tell.
Because it can suck today, but that can change tomorrow.
The chances that something will change depends on:
1. The specific nature of the situation.
It goes on.
That’s its job.
It doesn’t care about your problems.
It doesn’t care about your goals.
It doesn’t care about you.
It goes on.
It’s not your enemy.
It’s not your friend.
It doesn’t know you.
It goes on.
You can’t argue with it.
You can’t negotiate with it.
You can’t flirt with it.
It goes on.
You worry that time is passing, or that it has passed.
Or that you’re lagging behind on your goals and aspirations.
Or that you’ll wake up someday, feeble and frail, not having achieved anything significant in your life.
There’s a kind of person you want to be.
You know it.
Or you have an idea about it.
A sort of mental picture that comes back to you again and again.
But there’s the gap.
The gap between who you are now.
And who you’d like to become.
The gap is scary.
Because it’s really wide.
Reaching for it is like trying to touch the sky from your basement.
Because nothing you’re doing right now measures up to the standard of that image.
Sometimes you wonder why you’re even trying.
And it seems obvious that…
“Speak your truth.”
It’s now a popular phrase.
And it’s funny.
Because a lot of people take it seriously.
The logic goes:
What you experience in life is your truth.
And no one has the right to question it.
Because you experienced it.
Therefore, it is your truth.
Going by this, there are 8 billion people on the planet.
If 8 billion people see 1 thing differently.
Then 8 billion truths exist.
At best, this logic tries to make a case for relativism.
At worst, it betrays a lack of common sense.
There is the truth.
People get upset when you say “no”.
It happens all the time.
They feel hurt when you can’t give them something they want.
But sometimes, you feel hurt too.
Because you want to help.
But for some reasons, you just can’t.
And sometimes, you don’t want to help.
Because you just don’t want to.
And that’s okay.
Some people are able to accept that you can’t, or won’t help.
A lot of people aren’t.
You see it on their faces.
You hear it in their tone of voice.
You read it in their text messages.
They’re not happy with you.
Everyone has problems.
You have yours. Others have theirs.
There’s a difference between yours and theirs.
The difference isn’t the type or the magnitude of problems.
The difference is that yours is yours and theirs is theirs.
People say that a problem shared is a problem half-solved.
Maybe that’s true.
A problem shared with you doesn’t become your problem.
Except you want it to be your problem.
Choosing to help is a good thing.
But it doesn’t make someone else’s problem yours.
Most people have the capacity to solve their own problems.
You can suggest, encourage and…